I'm not really sure I agree about it being easier to just find someone new. True, you wouldn't have that baggage, but you know what, you'll get NEW baggage. Only because there is NEVER going to be that perfect person, because we are all flawed/sinners/imperfect. We will actually be bringing in our own baggage from our previous R and possibly them from their previous R. Of course reconciling isn't easy. it's definitely tough as well. I think the biggest thing, is about our selfishness and our humbleness, or lack of it. Working on our R has to be very much a selfless effort with an enormous humbling attitude. So of course it's a tough thing to do. However, starting a whole new R with someone else, I would almost bet my life that a new "sitch" will happen with them too, and the whole cycle happens again, maybe not as severe, or maybe more severe, depending on our commitment and wisdom and attitude from both people.
But I know that you guys are still toughing it out with your WAS and that is wonderful. I can't say that I suffered as hard or as long as you all are, but I did suffer much and I praise God for what he allowed me to go thru.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
