Learning to Trust

[LuvMyHusband]

Hi guys, I had applied money to our joint and to our joint equity line that he had asked me too. He hadn't really touched either of them but I am planning on transferring both back to my individual account. I had transferred them both based on his word that he would not be in contact with her. Obviously he only said that to get me to transfer the money. Because a couple of days later, he was contacting her, telling her how much he missed her, telling her not to IM him, or to send him emails to his aol account, that he was going to have cancel his other account or I would "freak" if I saw anything from her. He gave her his yahoo email address so that she could contact him. He has been in contact with her every day since last Thursday. He broke his word and obviously only gave it just to get me to transfer the money over. When he has his own money, I don't know why he needs mine. It's also obvious that he never intended to try to make things work with me. He was texting me most of the night ranting about how I will never change, how I can't just let him make mistakes, blah blah blah. What a load of crap.

[LuvMyHusband]

he is more upset that I know than over his breaking his word to me and being in contact with her. He doesn't seem to think that is a big deal at all. keeps saying how he was "trying" to make things work with me. Right...how do you try to make things work with your spouse but have the OW in the picture at the same time.

[hurtandlost]

luv,

Mostly important how are you? Try to rest and take care of you today.

Did he saw the forwarded emails and is agonizing by now?

[LL44]

e is more upset that I know than over his breaking his word to me and being in contact with her. He doesn't seem to think that is a big deal at all.

Been there.

luv, I am hoping your H broke his word and contacted her because he is weak, and not to screw you out of money. That would make him soooo low. I would tranfer the money back, and go pitch black dark. He is a fool for giving you up. I'll ask morgan to check your thread, I know she went through a time where her H 'came back' only to find out he was still seeing OW as well. She kicked him out after that.

HUGS

[LuvMyHusband]

Hi hal, I actually feel sick to my stomach today. I'm tired and not feeling well. I am not forwarding anything to him. I don't feel I should have to and I'm nto getting into the middle of their games. I fell into that before and I got hurt badly for it. He was sending texts to my cell until 2 a.m. this morning. Good grief.

[LuvMyHusband]

he admitted to contacting her but doesn't seem to feel remorse for it. Is more angry that I know about it. Wants to know WHY he can't make his OWN mistakes, why I don't LET him make his own decisions. Gees, he sounds like a kid instead of a 43 year old man. Frankly, I really don't want him here. I'm sick of it. Seriously. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

[LuvMyHusband]

you will get a laugh over this. In his texts he is actually ranting over what a lying cheating untrustworthy hypocrite I am. Can you flipping believe it??? I finally went off. Now I'm angry and now I have finally reached the point where I have no problem with going dark. I don't want him here. I have been advised to change the locks and he is not allowed to come home.

[LuvMyHusband]

last week was wonderful. We made love, talked ALOT, went to lunch, shopping, played games (he played more than I knew about) and the whole time he knew he wasn't going to stay away from her. By Thursday he was contacting her again and then continued to contact her, then lied to me about it. The whole time continuing to be loving, attentive and tell me how he wanted to really try, making plans for us to get away not this weekend but the following weekend. We were planning Thanksgiving and had even talked about a New Year's Eve Party with our friends. We have been chatting online and playing games since he returned to CA. What a fraud!

[hurtandlost]

Strong girl! Like Sara said to lwb, now it's time to use the stick. He is full with carrots.

LWB may be right, he could just have used the excuse of the money to the OW to justify his call breaking the A up and later contacting her again.

But if what he wants is the money too bad because you will take that away from him.

Hope you can take a moment to take care of yourself today.

(((( ))))

[LuvMyHusband]

I am thankful that I have an appointment with my C this morning. I really need it. Gee, H's truck payment is due. What a shame. I'm not paying. Maybe he should have the OW make it for him.