Originally Posted By: oldtimer
Cinders,

Real detachment is critical to real intimacy.

Sadly, if you want to watch Rs crash, you can watch the piecing forum. When people lose their detachment, the Rs often take a nosedive.


I think this is so true right here. I've seen it first hand. I totally lost my detachment when H came home back in the summer and well, you see what happened there.

I think so many people think of detachment as a cold, uncaring place to be when in reality it's not that at all. It's about loving someone so much that you let them be themselves without trying to "fix" them.

Thanks for all the responses.

BFM

There is only one person who could ever make you happy, and that person is you.
David Burns, Intimate Connections