AH & Jeanette, Thanks for your kind wishes... I know you both have been down this part of the path in similar circumstances i.e. feeling the whole time that it is not right. It would be easier if I wholeheartedly agreed with the people around me including my parents, misc. friends etc. who believe that it is about time for this to get over with. Ah well, I cannot dismiss their thoughts completely as there is certainly a grain of truth in what they say.
I spoke to my S23 tonight about his dad. We don't often talk about the sitch anymore but I asked him how he thinks his dad is doing. S23 said he is overworked and not happy with his job, talks about moving and getting a different car. This is such an old story that I could recite it myself in the dark. I have heard it before and the job thing was the same when he left 3 yrs ago and before that too. Well, the guy is stuck. He made the wrong change to find happiness. Somehow I find that explanation comforting. I think each of us finds comfort in different ways: some by demonizing the WAS, some by demonizing the OP, some by discovering the M was not so good, some in intense spiritual rediscovery etc.. And some are fortunate enough to have the M restored.
Okay, gotta get my grandson out of my room and into bed - he is not a good sleeper.
