Thanks for all the replies... I guess I'm really concerned because my T has been suggesting that we both see other people. I'm sure she'll bring it up in December when our separation is supposed to 'end' -- I'm sure it won't end, it will either be 'I need more time' or 'I am sure its over' And she's already told me if H says he hasn't really thought much about what he wants that she's going to say I shouldn't see him at all besides therapy. We haven't been on a date together since the last T session which was a month ago.
I'm just worried this is going to cause more problems. Am I wrong? Should I go along with my T? Any experienced MLC survivors want to put in their 2c? I read the boards extensively today, and was AMAZED at how idenitcal the experiences all are (and match mine) I'm hopefull that he's in the 'withdrawl phase' and has been going through this MLC for about 2 years .. it seems he's in withdrawl, although it might be depression, and of course he can always bounce around the stages. Reading was a huge help, I feel infinitely better then I did before reading the MLC forums.
I guess the bottom line is I'm not totally convinced that spending less time (no dates, no communication until December) with H is the best way to go... thoughts? BTW I am in NC, so filing is not an option for another year, minus the 3 months of separation.
