Jeaninne, SB and Erin -- Thanks so much for coming by! I like my analytical mind too but like every other trait, it can certainly be taken to an extreme.
SB -- Has your H shown any renewed interest in coming to the boards? I'd be proud to have him read my thread!
Erin -- I'm not sure if I left you with the wrong impression! The list of negatives is kind of the nth degree of what I think H would say if he were REALLY pissed off at me. When I started DB'ing, a list like it really made a big difference in setting up my 180s. As for the positive list, I think H would say:
Yesterday was a good day -- I had a C. appointment which was focused around reworking my "waiting for the shoe to drop" lifelong attitude. Nothing concrete came out of it (drat) so I've gotta put some actions down for myself. At a minimum, I need to keep meditating, keep reminding myself that my "worst case scenario stories" are harmful to me (so don't do 'em!), keep focusing on the positive, act "as if", etc.
H. met me after the C session and we went to dinner. He was very verbal about how happy he was to see me! He suggested that we go home and "snuggle" on the couch. Told me how much he loved being with me. All good stuff.
He sent in a proposal to his old job re. working there -- they came back and said it looked good but that it might take 2-4 weeks to get the equipment ordered. Plenty of time for me to firmly attach my DB cap.
Tonight we're going out to buy a case of champagne... Seriously! We're having some friends over for a "champagne tasting". These are H's friends from old work -- ow came to more than one of these events during the A. You probably know she's not on the guest list this time around!
Here's to a positive day of enjoying and appreciating the wonderful things in my life!!!
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
but like every other trait, it can certainly be taken to an extreme.
The list of negatives is kind of the nth degree of what I think H would say if he were REALLY pissed off at me. When I started DB'ing, a list like it really made a big difference in setting up my 180s. As for the positive list, I think H would say:
Seriously! We're having some friends over for a "champagne tasting". These are H's friends from old work -- ow came to more than one of these events during the A. You probably know she's not on the guest list this time around! 
