When you say no to champagne....

[sage]

As for your "sabotaging" emotions - i think it's common at this point, after the focus shifts a little from all our goal-oriented DBing, we have to deal with some of the painful emotions we had to stuff down (and that our H's may still not be up to dealing with). Also - it's scary to be vulnerable in the R again. I find exercise helps, the "stop sign" technique helps, and spending lots of quality time together helps. I seem most vulnerable when we drift back into our busy routine and aren't really "connecting" as much during the day - I am still rather dependent on hearing those positive affirmations from my H. Fortunately my H's business schedule gave us several weekends away just when we needed them the most.

Ellie

Ellie -- Thanks for coming by and for reminding me of all of the reasons why I might be a bit mired in muck right now. I was busy beating myself up yesterday morning for being "stuck" and then I reminded myself that I'm afraid and that my fear, while perhaps not completely productive, isn't aimed at hurting H. or penalizing him, but is just a byproduct of everything that I've gone through.

Recognizing it as fear helped calm me down quite a bit.

Sage