Originally Posted By: husband
Originally Posted By: mwel
maybe I screwed up...again. but I asked about the affair and she came clean, she admitted it. I was calm, and I acted like I didn't care. I was strong, didnt raise my voice or anything.



OMG MWEL, You are the man. When I got my W to confess I fell apart. I started crying and begging her to give ME a second chance. (still wonderwhy I would be asking this, should she be the one?)

I asked about Denver and if she was still going. She said as of now she is but doesnt know if she can get the time off (I dont think she will go). She asked why would I still want her to go with me. I said because we made these plans together and everything is paid for. Plus I said that it would be nice to hang out with you and just have fun, but I said that if she couldnt go then that's no big deal and I would try to find someone else to go. I asked that as of right now since we are going, I planned on going skiing and I wanted to know if she would be interested in going along. She said that she didnt know. I feel good about not begging or pursuing her. I really dont even care about when she admitted the Affair...I am ready to move on with my life..


I want to give ya manly hug dude. YOU DID GREAT. I like the part that you would prefur to go to denver with her but YOUDID NOT NEED TO.

I need some of your strenth.
You are on the way

Husband[/quote]
Thanks husband! I feel great, its like a weight has been lifted off of my shoulders. Well after work I was driving to meet my grandmother for dinner and guess who calls?? Yep, her. I let it ring a couple of times but I picked it up. We talked for about 20 min...I mean really talked. She had why could I have married her with me knowing that she cheated and all this. I was strong and I said that you need to make yourself happy because I am going to do the same. I am moving on with my life and I deserve to be treated better. She agreed. She said that she has a lot of issues that she needs to work out and she doesnt want to have a relationship with anyone while she sorts out her issues. I said thats fine. That wouldnt be fair to me..She wanted to say more but her work was calling her so she had to go. She told me to call her when I was finished. I did but she didnt want to talk so I got off the phone....I am so proud of myself and I am feeling alot better..but I think I just lost a good person in my life...