Learning to Trust

[LuvMyHusband]

Yoyo, I'm not contacting him, period. No texts, nothing. I'm not accepting his either. He's calling me the liar. Me!! I'm not going to try to prove anything to him!! I shouldn't have to. He's the one who was emailing her AFTER he said he wouldn't. AFTER he told me that he was done with her and wanted to make things work with me. He had better not come here either.

[Yoyowife]

I think the no contact is a good idea.

[hurtandlost]

So true. Hot head, bad decisions.

I understand you're done with him but at least with the facts you have it seems he will just have a glimpse about how it feels to be hurt by someone he trusted.

Let him have the consequences and feel the pain.

Sounds nasty but savor the fact that what goes around comes around.It's happening to him. Someone said that revenge is a cold meal that should be eaten by the borders.

I think you shouldn't contact him, let him experience his own poison.

You have a guardian angel that has been taking care of you by putting things in light. You are in a much better situation than these two L&C.

[LuvMyHusband]

I feel so overwhelmed by pain I feel like I am drowning. I just can't stand it. How could he give me hope and then do this???

[Yoyowife]

I'm so sorry, wish I could give you a big hug.

[hurtandlost]

First, I think he's done it to himself.

He's just chosen someone who is sneaky over someone who really cared for him.

I was just thinking the other day what's worse, carrying yourself through life as the betrayed or carrying yourself through life as the betrayer.

Think about it, you know you can have a great life because you know what you have inside you is good, and only good can come from that.

If the cheater doesn't care about his "karma" he will always find destruction.

[Dr LOve]

Forward the emails to him so he sees how you got them. don't say a word.

Ok ladies PLEASE do not hit me but...... I beg to differ. I would not forward the e-mails. Knowing Luv's history (what little I do know). NO MATER WHAT HE WILL THINK SHE SNOOPED. Yes I am afraid she has sealed her fate from the past. No mater how she says she got them he will not hear her.
I did not get to read all of the posts her but someone said something about he was using luv for her money. Luv IS THIS TRUE? or are you just filling in the blanks.? If there is sonething written down that says this by all means keep that in a safe place.
Now everybody stand back and look at this.
Why would you send your lovers wife e-mails that was sent to you?
If you wanted to keep in touch with her husband (and take her money) this wouold be the most stupid thing to do.
BUT............... If you wanted to split them up becase you feel the husband slipping away. AND you know that the Wife (LUV) does have a quick temper well..........

Luv, you may be a puppet here babe. The OW may be pulling your strings.

Think about it

husband

[LuvMyHusband]

hey Husband,
No, they really are in contact again. there's nothing I can do about it. He has missed her. I'm just letting him go. they deserve each other.

[saffie]

I sort of agree with H. Go dark and see what happens. Otherwise you WILL only get accused of snooping again. IF the emails came to you without any snooping on your part then maybe I would forward them BUT no talk about the gaming site etc.

Luv, I know it's hard but try to just carry on without getting angry. If he doesn't come home when he is meant to then you know it is all lies but maybe OW is being a bi!tch scorned. Your H thought she would make waves. Wait and see. I know this is hard honey but please wait and see- let's face it, there's not a lot else you can do but don't let the kids see what you are going through.

How much money did you give him? You did your budget - you know you can survive without him. Wiat and find out if he really is a scumbag and then if he really is ditch the b*st*rd.

((((((HUGS)))))))

Saffie

[Dr LOve]

Hey Luv,
You already said "I'm just letting him go. They deserve each other."
Ok now go dark and wait. Do not send him your money. Pay your bills. Play with your kids. Send me money. For consultation. Or for being a surrogate husband. (Ok you don't have to do that.) And Enjoy life.

Husband