Ok. She is a nut. Wow. I can't believe she insists the healthy child goes home as well. Actually, my H would do something like that, but that is crazy. Makes no sense? Especially if the one child needs attention, wouldn't you want to focus on the sick one, and let the healthy one play and be happy at school?? Geesh. She is totally throwing OM stuff in your face. I would never put those shirts on your kids. In fact, I would stain the heck out of them so they can't wear 'em. That's just evil me.
You are doing everything right, she is just lost and lashing out. I guess when she brings up OM (for example, the shirts), don't even acknowledge her answer and compliment your daughters on something else or change the subject. Sorry about the smoking. H finds tatoos and belly rings unattractive, funny OW has both. Go figure.
So.. run out to store to pick up some medicine for D3. Sure enough.. D's spot W's car. We now have to trapse around the store to find her. I did not want, nor was I prepared to see her.
She could tell.. she actually asked several times what was wrong. She even mentioned to D's that "Daddy was on edge"
As for the shirts.. yeah... you can bet she won't be getting it back soon. I may clean the chimney with it.. possibly the gutters and then use it to start my brush fire. I'm not evil. The shirt is.
I guess this is the stuff that throws me off course. We have a good interaction (like last night short of a few comments) and then she derails the train.
Is she doing it on purpose? Is she feeling certain feelings and then intentionally pushing my buttons?
The ultimate... the D's were both whining about wanting mommy. D3 actually says "I miss mommy.. I don't miss you daddy.. I want mommy.. I want to go to mommy's house"
D5 asks "Is this going to be like this forever?"
You could've driven by.. punched a hole in my chest, ripped my heart out and laughed like a ghoul and I couldn't have felt worse.
As for the shirts.. yeah... you can bet she won't be getting it back soon. I may clean the chimney with it.. possibly the gutters and then use it to start my brush fire
...you forgot the toilet......
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D5 asks "Is this going to be like this forever?"
I don't even know your D, and I want to hug her. Bless her. I am so sorry, that's just horrible. I am so mad at your W right now, tearing her little kids apart.
As for the shirts.. yeah... you can bet she won't be getting it back soon. I may clean the chimney with it.. possibly the gutters and then use it to start my brush fire. I'm not evil. The shirt is.
Hey Jar,
why don't you have D's paint mom a picture with unwashable paints Let them wear the shirts so they don't get their good clothes dirty.
H
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Didn't get much sleep last night. Just keep thinking about this whole thing over and over.
I've come to the revalation that I really need to worry only about myself and the girls. I've been stuck.. I think I've finally realized that I don't need anyone else.
I love my W. That woman is not my wife. She is the complete opposite of my wife. I need to treat her like the stranger she is.
So.. I dropped D's off this morning. No big deal.. went over homework, stuff. W sat very close to me on the couch.. seemed like she was touching me with her leg.
I went to leave, and I wanted to talk to her about D5 and her "test" the parent trap. D5 will test the new parent for a couple of hours. As long as you are stern with her, she will fall in line.
Well.. we went into W's room to discuss this and I see a new dress and stuff hanging from the mirror. I should get an Oscar for how well I handled this. I asked "Oooh.. new dress. Is that for the Symphony?"
She has to go for school.. I had assumed she already went.. now I was assuming her and OM were going.
As it turns out.. she's been invited to his Xmas party at work. ARE YOU KIDDING?
Then.. she says "Well.. you didn't invite me to yours"
I honestly don't know how to react to her. I honestly didn't think she'd want to go. I told her she was more than welcome to attend.. she mentioned the symphony thing and I'm still up for it.
I must say that OM scored some cool points there.. she's always wanted an excuse to dress up. I just never made much of an effort to do that for her. My fault. I did try and remind her of Aruba and how we dressed up, but it wasn't good enough. She even said "You know how much it means to me to get dressed up"
I left.. as I was driving into the office, it occurred to me that MIL called yesterday looking for W. I put 2 and 2 together. I texted W and asked if MIL helped her pick out the dress (W said how much fun it was picking it out). She said yes.. I asked if MIL knew what it was for and W said yes.
This got W asking questions.. like "What are you thinking?" Me: "Lots" W: "Fill me in" Me: "Just surprise/confirmation on your mother. The rest is no biggie. I honestly don't think you would understand/care." W: "Ouch-Try me!" Me: "I've mentioned some of it before and it keeps coming up. Got a meeting. Talk later" W: "Fine"
I just needed to end the conversation.. I don't know what to say. There is a ton I want to say, but I know it won't make a difference.
What does she want from me? Be her husband and be completely fine with OM? I don't see how you can honestly expect that.
Wow, a Christmas party??? How is it going to look for him to being taking a married woman to a Christmas party?? What a fool. And for her to throw "You didn't invite me to your party" in your face??? I hate how she does that to you. Acts like having a boyfriend is totally fine with you. I am so sorry. Good to end the conversation. Sometimes we get to a point where we honestly don't know what to say next, better to just end it.
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"You know how much it means to me to get dressed up"
Ahh... but they will be secure in their blanket of "They were separated". They are fools.
I really believe she is just trying to get a reaction out of me sometimes.
lwb - I started reading "Not just friends" last night.. I just want to find out where they are in their little world and what I could expect.
Freaking weird.. I only made it so far, because it sounded like they took my story and put it in a book.
Cooky. Also a downer.. lots of info that smacks you upside the head. Like how much harder it is for women to get over having an affair than men. (more emotional) etc.
Sorry about your morning, your W is really messing with you. I find it interesting or should I way warped that she is really worried about what you have to say.
So recape, she worried about what your have to say, but not worried about the fact that she is having an A???? Hellooooo
that's interesting too regarding the fact that its harder from women to get over the affair then men.. What do you think about that?
tal
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
It's odd.. if I really go back and think about things, she only seems to gravitate towards me when I react with anger. Not sure why. I also don't get how we can have a pleasant exchange and then she drops the walls.
The women/men thing makes sense to me. Women typically start an EA and basically make the other person their soul mate. I can't remember the exact phrase, but it was something like they are "mirrored" by the other person. It's all fake. By the time something physical does occur, there is so much more invested that it's hard to break off.
Men tend to be more physical..
I know my W is in this emotional spot. Good goonie goo goo's. There is a quiz in a few of the sections.. my W flunked both of them so far.
She's running around with his hooded zip up sweatshirt. It has his companies initials on it.
How High School is that?
Also bummed to see that MIL is full of crap (which I knew she was) and is basically going to side with her D to make sure she loves her.
Thanks for the support!! Say your D needs to grow up and then help her live her immature life. Great job!!
