Hey Sage,

I am so happy for you about the shirt thing Make it special. Make it count. Bury it, take it to the dump. Buy him a new shirt and put it in a heart box.

Let go of the A.

I've been thinking about the "not changing" thing. What if you agree with him about this, but at the same time find a way to change within the way you are. So, rather than being basically insecure, what if you basically need to feel safe being loved and that scares you. In the past, the fear led you to be insecure, but that didn't work, so now you are going to be secure.... Does that make any sense???

My husband has in the past, though not recently, talked about feeling broken. I think at some point when you feel safe, strong, and validating, this is something you should pursue, maybe in C?

You are doing great. I hope you make it to Chuck's on Saturday.

Hugs,
Acorn