You do, if you're doing it for yourself. If you swallow everything you feel and all your reactions, are you doing it because you want to change your behavior or because you want your H to think that your changing. Did it bother you that you cried in the restaurant? Is that a behavior that YOU want to change because it bothers YOU or because it bothers H?
Erin -- Oh, it's definitely because I want to do these things for ME not him. Simply put, my little episode in the restaurant wasn't a healthy thing for anyone -- least of all me. I need to figure out a way to communicate the feelings that need to be communicate before they become intolerable. And, frankly, I need to also figure out a way to better "soothe" myself. I'm freaking out all over the place for no good reason!
Quote: Last question - What is orienteering?
Orienteering is hiking (or walking) outdoors (in a woodsy area usually) with a topographical map and compass. They set up a course of checkpoints and you're supposed to navigate your way to all of the checkpoints. In a competition, you're supposed to do it quickly but I've never done it so I'll just be happy to make it back to the parking lot in one piece!
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
