That's really it...we make these changes for US. That's how I felt while my inner (and outer) transformation was beginning. That no matter what happened with my M (remember H had 1 foot out the door at the time) these were changes and insights I needed to work on for my own personal, spiritual, emotional growth.
It's extra tough on you, because it seems your H is very focussed on observable behaviours...I mean, one crying jag negates all your positive changes????
I can see, some, why you've been feeling more like you're walking on eggshells than I have. I think my H has a bit more empathy for the anxiety/sadness side of things. It's the anger, control, hiding feelings, and sarcasm that really, really bother him.
