I think xh will realize, eventually, that this game also means he will have limited access to his kid. I think that's where it's really going to hurt him.
that's what it's all down to, as far as family, isnt it? One very valid reason people stay together, is "for the children". both for the benefit of the children.. but also, so that the PARENT can see their child every day.
If they choose to "break up the family".. that means they interrupt their access to their children too. by their own choice.
Making selfish choices, usually has consequences directly related to those choices. Otherwise known as, "you cant have your cake and eat it too" (unless your spouse is too forgiving )
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And yes, I know, the dating thing is motivated by my vindictive feelings. That's why I haven't really done it, yet. I don't want to give into that side.
On the other hand...from the blank looks he gives me, he has absolutely no idea what it's like to be on this side. Maybe it would do him some good.
Just Say No, Azhira. dont play that game. I dont think you even need to go there.
I think it will be a strong enough message, if [if he continues to be hurtful to you by dating other women] you just stop letting him come be with you and your child, when it is your turn to have him.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
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