Its seems to me like she is always trying to get a reaction out of you. You are going to need some space from her to keep your sanity. I agree her behavior is very insane. My W says some things where I wonder who in the hell is this person.
Me - 34 W - 33 S - 5 D - 4 M - 14 years Bomb 1 Dec 06 Bomb 2 Aug 07 Separated - Aug 07 WAW Renting own place - Dec 07