Well, the people don't change mantra has been H's for a while. WE've talked about it quite a bit over the years -- it's only been recently that I've realized that he and I may be talking about two different things -- we get wrapped around the words of what he really means -- what's attributable to core personality, what's just behavior, etc.
As for the anxiety and sadness, well, I do have to say that I know the extremes that I feel are unhealthy for me. I feel an ongoing sense of doubt and concern about so many things -- well, I used to! I really and truly feel that my work with meditation and other things has helped me a lot in that area.
One of us here has a case of itchy butt so far tonight -- I know I'm feeling overly sensitive given last night's conversation...don't know what's up with him. I think I'll act "as if" he's a bit off due to the intimacy of last night's conversation, too.
I want to cut myself some slack at the same time...it was scary to hear the sense of finality in his voice at times last night -- even though the D word wasn't mentioned and we ended it well (and this AM was good, too). Feeling a bit freaked out about that seems perfectly normal.
My goals? gotta think about them.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.