CVA - Not sure I have figured anything out?

[Puddle]

Hey CVA,

I'm glad to hear your W is at least polite. Perhaps that's where your confidence that you guys can talk about this stuff comes from. I very much hope you're right. How and when do you plan to approach her about discussing it?

The no-fault thing is good, right?

Take care.

[nutfarmer]

You really need to get a good lawyer. I know it is expensive, but without professional advice you are very vulnerable. Just remember that the lawyer works for you, not the other way around.

Divorce negotiations can very easily go sideways. Having competent counsel will help you to avoid any pitfalls.

[Not Much Left]

Hey folks
Hey nut! Just had to throw that in! Hiring a guy today. Gave me some good advice and helped me with the "process" which eased my mind as it relates to timing.

Not too expensive and expert in family law so....

Puddle, I think I will just ask her for a talk about the docs with the idea that we need to go through this and give it a try without attorneys in the room and see how many pts we can get through as legal fees don't make the pie any bigger for her or the kids.

C

[PMA_Baby!]

Just do what u can to protect u and the kids. It's not about pleasing the w anymore. You've come along way.

"If it's meant to be it's up to me."

God Speed. Broken

[Not Much Left]

Thanks BM for reading my stuff. Too much drama. 8 mos of day-day living with random days of hope and despair.

Talked to nomo today who pointed out out of all the people he has followed, I have detached the least. Good and bad but true.

C

[Heimlich]

Hey, CVA, have only skimmed a bunch of your stuff the last few days, but would have to agree with Nomo's thought about detachment/space.

If your M is going to turn around, it's only going to come when you back off from your W, take the kids for days at a time, and stop taking care of her and things around the house.

And, you are equally in the driver's seat on the terms of the D as your W. If you don't want your W to move, want to have joint custody of your kids, whatever -- fight for it. Forget DBing when it comes to what you want with your kids. I was/am very fortunate in that my W knows that I'm a good Dad and had no desire to fight me for full custody. Not everyone is as fortunate. If you're not, and you want as much time with your kids as possible, effe her and fight for it.

And yeah, Puddle and sexy undies -- go figure, eh? Our earth mother is sexin' it up.

BD