our un-relationship

[DaveJ]

Well, to him you are punishing him because he's missing that closeness/connection with you when you pulled back. But he needs to live with it because you are asking for space to think. Unconditional love does not mean feeding his neediness. You are pulling back because you need the boundaries to protect yourself. You aren't doing it to punish him. Sounds like he's panicking and doing a lot of pursuing. Oddly, very much like something I would usually do. :P So his anger could have a lot to do with fear or frustration that you are pulling back. Either that or he got his hands caught in the cookie jar and is feeling guilty....