our un-relationship

[Dom R]

oh, and on the whole "deserves" thing... whats sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander, is the old expression.

if he gets rights because of your child... then you do too!
If he gets access into your life, then you get access into his!

not to mention.. what about the rights of the child itself?

Your BABY deserves a single, unified home.
He may not have been understanding of that, when your child was born. but now he's attached to your child.. he may be more receptive to that concept.

i think that you have about 1 more year to sort this out, before it starts getting confusing for the child (or until age 3, if a boy. dont remember which you have)