Stub, they ALL think they can remain friends with OP. In the time I've been on this BB I've heard it over and over again. I think there is a belief that if they remain friends then the whole thing wasn't a sordid, inappropriate, guilt invoking AFFAIR. So don't focus on this "I want to be friends" crap, work on DBing. If you go to counselling together try and find a Solution Focused/Oriented counsellor. You don't want to spend endless hours dwelling on all the stuff that went wrong, you want to focus your energies on the things that are going right and how to make that grow. That is solution focused. Often when people get into the transgressions, hurts etc of the past for too long it bogs things down and creates a hopeless feeling which really doesn't help build a R, does it? Anyway, that's my 2 cents on the subject. Keep on piecing, baby!
