Can you do me a favor? There is a woman who posts on the MLC forum whose husband is an alcoholic...I suggested alanon to her but I have no first hand experience. You don't have to go through her whole thread; the last few posts sum up what's been happening. Her name is MariS ( she once posted here as well). She's struggling with a dysfunctional spouse and is taking care of her toddler as well ( along with working and aring for an ill mother, and so on). Thanks for your time.