One of the things I've been really working on, is the whole unconditional love thing. I am bothered that xh felt I was punishing him.
Would it have been better to keep acting as if until I had given him the letter? I tried to explain to him that I wasn't avoiding him (I wasn't, really) and it was just that I was trying to figure out how to say something to him, and was having a very hard time.
I wonder how much of his sudden anger (about the snooping, about my cold behavior) was really fear because I was clearly pulling back?
Changed the last paragraph around, so it ends on a more positive note:
I have a hard time getting closer to someone whom I know is emotionally involved with someone else. The past several months have been beautiful. I enjoy spending time with you—it’s easy, it’s fun, and we are a great family. You have told me that you have enjoyed this time, as well. We have been reconnecting in a lovely way, and I would like to get closer to you again.
