An update from ol' Chocolateeyes

[Dr LOve]

Hey chocolateeyes,
I was ordered by Red to read your sitch. I may need a note from you to show her I was here.
From what she says you have come a long way and have things I can learn for you.

Husband

[chocolateeyes]

Nope; not me. I fought the good fight, but there's nothing really good going on here. My wife and I are in the middle of a 3-month "stay" in my divorce action against her, and after a good start at things we're right back in sexless/affectionless mode again, she's made no attempt to reach out to my family (whom she alienated, understandably, with her infidelity), and I still don't trust her. She did NONE of the three "dealbreaker" things I said I needed to see when she begged me to come back to her 10 weeks ago.

I'm just trying to get thru the holidays, and then we go before the family court judge in early January. My mind is pretty much made up.

Wish I had more encouraging news for you, guy. I'd be happy to write you a note, tho.

Chocolateeyes

[RealJourney]

Hi CE... Thanks for keeping us updated; no matter how this turns out you have shown tremendous growth. May good things be headed your way!

[oldtimer]

Choc,

What have YOU done to try to make your M great since W has been back?

[Lillieperl]

CE, sorry things aren't working out to save the M. You did indeed fight the good fight.

I have a saying: "Sometimes you do everything right, and the patient dies anyway."

[RealJourney]

Lil, I posted something to you but I mistakenly placed it on the MLC forum ( it's a new topic). Can you go take a look?

[OG_Lou]

Choc, sorry to hear the R is in the middle of a 3-month "stay"

BB askes me about 1X a month what is happing in your situation.

Lou

[chocolateeyes]

Why? Genuine interest, or is she trying to prove some point?

[OG_Lou]

Choc, it is Genuine interest. BB thinks anyone that fools around should be history, men or woman. BB is on your side BTW and used to say that once a spouse wanders, they are not worth staying with.

I think BB has one way of talking and another way of acting IRL.

About point proving, yes BB has verbal points but I don't see her willing to be a real person in any of the R's posted here on the SSM forum. It is a lot easier to have an opinion/point than to live it.

Lou

[RedHeadWife]

Oh, Choc, I'm so very sorry that things haven't worked out for you. You were so strong and I know that you are going to be just fine for YOU and your children, however, I really wish things had turned out differently. I guess there's just a new & different 'adventure' waiting out there for you than what you had planned on. Stay strong & know that there are so many people, IRL and here, that truly care about what happens to you.