So, xh kept pushing until I finally talked to him somewhat on the phone. Ugh. I hate doing this at work...
The main points:
He felt I was being 'cold' and 'weird', and therefore was punishing him. (Huh?) He felt I was out of line for the snooping, and had no right to get mad at him because I have no idea what is going on in his life. (Yeah. I think sleeping with someone entails a certain degree of closeness, right?) He feels entitled to a key to my place because of the baby. (I have taken it away.) He feels he 'deserves' this kind of 'friendship' with me because of the baby--and justifies his actions with "but I protested before/during/after the sex". He feels he did absolutely nothing to lead me on or give me the impression we were in any way involved in a romantic relationship. (Can I hit him over the head now, please?)
He also said that I have "no idea" what is "really going on" and that I shouldn't jump to conclusions. (I'm sorry, but I think his interactions with JD are pretty clear. If he wants to play stupid, that's his problem.)
So. Basically, we are reading from the "married but husband is having an affair" script, whether or not he realizes it. Well, since there is no more marriage, I am going to quit playing this game. He can get angry at me all he wants, but that's his issue.
I really, really, really want to stick to my boundaries this time.
I am going to wrap up this letter, and give it to him tonight. I suspect I know how this will play out.
