I just wanted to say how much your "rant" on your previous thread did for me. You articulated so much of what I and others feel in abundance. All though I find DBing essential to our success in finding a pulse in our teetering marriages, I also believe that for our own health, we need to be able to give unbrideled voice to the fear and pain we carry within us.
Also, you addressed something that I am grappling with now. 1. That it's all a sham and he is lying to me 2. That he will change his mind and no longer love me
I have to add to that list that I wonder if my H is just fattening me up for the kill - that is before he drops the biggest bomb yet. I sometimes wonder if he and OW have devised some sort of plan in order for him to make his departure look more acceptable. And on and on and on....
But I like that you have seperated the "I can control" from the "I can't control".
I will keep this in mind when my fear starts mangeling what appears to be postive steps coming from my H.
Looks real good for you.....
If you get a chance, please revisit my thread where I have updated the latest on my situation. In Grave Despair The post starts with "Please pardon my openess about sex".
I don't know if I'm nearing the point of moving over here to "piecing" or if I should just sit tight where I am.
