Separated, 2 months, need help applying DB

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My H was also a Goody Two Shoes type who was sexually inexperienced. One of his many draws. I felt very safe with a man like this, with a man who seemed loyal forever, as though cheating was never to be in his DNA. Then I realized he is just as likely to cheat as any other man, why not. Sexually inexpeience made him more insecure and more willing to prove his manhood... His kindness and fidelity meant that once he betrayed me, he could no longer go back to his regualar life so my H drowned himself in his affair, transitional friend and work. He eschewed all that he knew from before... but not my H. Complete disillusionment.
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MK, I am speachless , it's like your are describing my H. When he fell off grace..oh boy, he fell BIG TIME with a big bang. You have put into words something that has always puzzed me.

lost14, about the "'waiting for some sign that he wants to try and stay faithful to me" I got that BS too, H and I went out on our anniversary while separated (2yrs ago) and he also wanted either fate or some emotional faery to let him know he should come back with me. BS, total BS, they just want things to be easy.
My also fell into MLC at 29, whole wardrobe thing, drinking (he wouldn't even drink wine before!) swearing, and the person who didn't want me to put 10$ on a credit card ended up with a couple of thousand dollars in debt.

Yea, I say MLC. And you should see your own T because being in limbo sickens the soul, see one every week to help you deal with the T hon.