Aud, I am much more encouraged by what we can have in the future than what we once had. Looking back, what we had was quite flawed.
Cat, thakns for the 2x4. I forget sometimes that they are also fragile and that they need to feel trusted. And yes, the A is a fantasy world. And I think that's why there's so much back & forth with our spouses. They want to be home and married to us, yet they can't give up the memories of that "feel-good" drug of teh infatuation stage of what they had with the OP. In my H's case, everytime he chased that with OW, it only reaffirmed to him that it was not where he wanted to be.
Anyway, Cat, thanks for your post. I'm goign to re-read it to remind myself of those key learnings.
Married 9 years Kids 5 and 6 Bomb 2006 H back and forth for a year M now back on track
