I didn't realize I was trying to fix so many things for him until as of late, obviously that was part of my previous pursuing efforts to convince him of why he was acting the way he was and we could fix it. I always thought I was more of an empathizer, but I really haven't been. Thanks for pointing out something I do need to see more clearly Brit. That is why I love this forum, it does help see things from another perspective.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
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