Just catching up with you on the last couple of days.
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Originally Posted By: L21959 Do I recall correctly from upstream that your more natural reaction is to be more remote and closed down as a show of strength?
Yep, that's me. And it hasn't been working for me either, never has, and I've been working on that one for years. (But much, much more successfully lately.)
It's great that you're in a place where you not only realize this, but are actively making attempts to change. I'm just arriving @ the place where I'm a little more comfortable letting my actual emotions show through. Like you said, it doesn't have to be a long winded event, short & sweet is probably better suited to you.
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I hadn't thought of that. Saw it more as H's inability to believe I'm okay with the sitch, as opposed to I've "changed." You may be right, not sure.
I'm with ST on this, I think he still isn't believing the changes....yet.
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It's funny, though, I so know what he means about "just not wanting it." Feelings do change, though, and I'm going to choose to do my best by him in the meantime
It's this that separates the LBS from the WAS, isn't it! Not always easy to keep in mind, even with the knowledge, when what you want to do is "just give up and get some rest".
That's where I admire your decision to keep what's at stake in mind & hang in there.
