PS: I dont think this will "allw ork out on its own". i think he will keep doing exactly what he is doing right now, until you tell hiim it isnt ok any more.
why would HE ever choose to change it?
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle