Anyway, this was a big hit to my self-esteem of course, and I finally decided that only *I* could do anything about it. I figured out how much time I could realistically give to a fitness routine (you know how it is with three little ones) and just started. It's been over a year now, and I can honestly say that the first twenty minutes of my day, 6 days a week, are just for ME. They have benefitted me in so many ways beyond just losing the weight--I am stronger physically and emotionally.
As I started feeling better and more confident about myself, I became more attractive to my H. I also felt exponentially more attractive.
As far as comparisons to the OW, at some point you have to make the choice that you will no longer allow her to have a presence in your life. When the comparisons pop in your head--don't indulge them. Shift your thoughts to *your* strengths and what you want. Use those natural thoughts as a springboard to building yourself up. And don't forget, the nature of comparing generally involves looking at your worst qualities in relation to her 'best' attributes. She's got nothing on you, really.
