Soo..H is home. No R talk. He is acting exactly the same so I'm not so certain he did any soul searching during his time away. I don't know what I expected... Some sort of epiphany I guess.
There is ONE different thing that happened last night. H took me out to dinner and while we were there he jokingly kicked me under the table and then I was trying to grab his legs and we were laughing and teasing each other. I know not a huge deal but it was a moment of flirting with each other. Haven't done that in a while.. We've had fun and laughed with each other but I just realized that we hadn't flirted with each other in a long time. Progress???... Who knows...
Here's a heart-wrencher. D4 got up numerous times last night and came into our bedroom. This morning I asked her why and she said that she was checking on her Daddy. Since he was gone for so long, she wanted to make sure that he was home all night. She will be so devastated if/when we D and he abandons her to go live with the ho..
I'm sure H did some soul-searching during his time away. But who knows if he came up with any answers! But the flirting during dinner, and the fact that he took you out to dinner (to spend time with you), could be progress! Remember it's the little things you need to look for.
That is a heart-wrencher with D4. Too bad H was not around to hear it.
I just told H about D4. He feels guilty about leaving her and is planning a family day tomorrow He loves that child beyond belief. I do know that for a fact.
The flirting is a good sign. I agree with JDV that he probably did some soul searching (men's way meaning probably he didn't go anywhere because he was having fun with his buddies). No, he probably does not have the answer but it was a break for him, so that's good. I just notice that during R talk, my H would be all game for it until it drags on too long, then he gets defensive and say all the "wrong" things. I used to take all that in and feel very bad. funny I don't notice till now. I have decided to make a real effort to ignore it, or better yet limit R talks to a very short time.
I would suggest hold off a few more days if you can and if possible, wait for him to initiate R talk. Don't want him to think, "Geez, I just came back from a great trip and immediately I have to deal with your talking on R."
Yes, the flirting is good. Sometimes, it seems as though H gets caught up in being with me, then remembers ow, and - POOF - the magic is gone.
The weekend was pretty good. I think H saw ow Saturday. But, he kept his cell off all night after he got home around 7:00. I did catch him tm'ing Sunday a.m. right when he got up. I ignored it. Maybe I should have confronted him. He hasn't done it in a looooong time because I have asked him not to. Not sure what's going on there but I swear his eyes were teary. The rest of Sunday was fun and we went for a drive and visited family. I even got my hand held and my butt smacked. Moments of life feeling normal and feeling that the really weird thing is that there is still another person involved. Am I going crazy or in denial or something??
Another slightly odd thing - when I got home and was listening to messages, there was this weird slightly muffled message that you couldn't understand. I deleted it and H asked who that was. I said I didn't know and he asked why I deleted it then. It was just starnge that he was so concerned about it.
Hi! All that sounds pretty optimistic to me! If his eyes were really teary, I wonder what that means? Perhaps OW is breaking it off with him since he is still with you? Or maybe it's the other way around and he's trying to end it with her??? Either way, since he was just away, I would take it as a good sign.
Could the weird muffled message been from her? You don't have caller ID do you? In my sitch, when OW gets desperate, and can't get H on his cells, she calls the house. I hate that. Once I didn't answer, twice I have (she was very polite) and once my D did.
I know what you mean about having moments when everything seems/feels normal (I think that's a good sign, too), then you remember the sitch you're in and suddenly you're in the twilight zone ... "a dimension of sound, a dimension of sight, a dimension of mind. You're moving into a land of both shadow and substance, of things and ideas. You've just crossed over into the Twilight Zone."
He loves that child beyond belief. I do know that for a fact.
Moments of life feeling normal and feeling that the really weird thing is that there is still another person involved. Am I going crazy or in denial or something??