I know this contradicts a lot of stuff on the board, but at 29 with no children, you are too young to be dealing with this guy's bullsh*t.
Get a divorce attorney and move on. This may actually force his hand.
Unfortunately, for me, I am 43 with a 6 year old and facing my second divorce. My wife has become obsessed with her career and gives minimal attention to my child and I. We are working on things, but it is not going well.
My first divorce was a piece of cake. I was 30 with no kids. Best thing i ever did.
