I didn't realize you were pulling yourself away from him. I assumed the turndowns for his invites were due to real reasons, being with the kids. Were you using them as an excuse? If so, I'm sorry for the assumption.
I wasn't using the kids as an excuse: I really couldn't hang out. What I mean by pulling back is I'm flirting with him a lot less, and I'm consciously thinking about him as a friend and not a possible romantic interest. There'll be plenty of time for that later, with him or someone else.
Originally Posted By: S.T. _I Made It!
Because I know how good you could feel if you allowed yourself to go further with this guy, only because he's cute and fun to be with, and it's almost like you'd be having an A too...
Yes, except to me it wouldn't be an A. Still, I'm not clear yet on whether I have a hard and fast timeline in mind: whether I'll wait until H moves out, until a D is final, etc. But right now for me, when I'm having such a hard time finding motivation to keep the focus on H, being involved with someone else is a distraction I can't really afford.
Originally Posted By: S.T. _I Made It!
does that make more sense?
Yes, I think you're saying it's more a general statement about what this kind of R can turn into than an observation about my interactions with this guy. I was just curious as to what kind of vibe I might be projecting about him.
