AG - your point is likely on the mark concerning fight/flight/freeze. W is probably just as tired of this dance as I am but for whatever reason she only sees a negative response as the preferred option. Also, this path is very familiar for her but now she does not have family so near that she lean on them like she did in the past.
Waiting on a call from IC about this. I don't want to harden my heart against W - it is blatantly not healthy for me but I also need to do what I can to educate myself about this Bataan path W wants to pursue. So I have another call waiting on that front. I want both us to find peace within ourselves - and I need to remember not to enable W on this.
I hope that I have the strength and wisdom to deal with whatever comes my way - for all of us. I had doubts in the past but I don't feel as nervous and sick as I expected...
Me 52, STBEX 52 D 17, S 12 M 20 years Em Sep since 2002, Phys Sep Sept 2009