Jak, I think it's too soon to ask her about it. I'm not sure what I would do with the information anyway.
I agree with Cat's post on Peaceful Spirits's thread. She shared some excerpts from the book, "Healing the Hurt in your Marriage." I took from it that we should not give power to the EA/PA or be threatened by it. The EA/PA is an escape from the role of a spouse, and it's responsibilities. The WAS is a depressed person trying to escape the realities and responsibilities of their lives.
If you go with that premise, than one of my roles is to make the home environment as positive as possible. Being Me's quote on her thread is "Be the Greener Grass."
I'll stay the course for now. I'll keep working with my W to improve the home environment. I'll only be a check and balance, if I think she's being extravagent, or buying for the sake of buying.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
