{..IC putting on his old, worn & tattered, trying to be an informed patient hat..}
SouthernGirl,
Thanks for the concern...actually, after the original diagnosis, I've been working with 2 different cancer centers on the test results and they seem to come to the same conclusion, along with somewhat similar treatment options. They're labeling it Adult Primary Osteosarcoma ?
I wasn't real clear on one of my posts about the chemo, and this is where the 2 centers differ on the treatment plan. Originally, it was going to be chemo - surgery - and then more chemo along with maybe some spot radiation treatments (although they say the radiation is is not all that effective..so WTF?) The one center is still sticking to that whereas the other has changed to the surgery and then follow up with about an 8 month chemo program. Either way I go, the surgery on the thigh is going to require a graft along with a plate and they are both giving me great odds to beat this
We've gone back and forth on this, and while I like the personal approach from the one doctor, I'm feeling more comfortable and at ease with the other center and I think we're going to go that route FWIW. A few days ago, I was all gung-ho to get the surgery done and get on the road to recovery but it's just that I feel so much more comfortable with the other center..any thoughts?
Ok SouthernGirl, onto a serious note....can you say something to me in that sweet southern drawl? (Don't get me in trouble...my wife might be lurking on here somewhere )
IC, I know you will come up with the right decision as to where to get treatment, as long as you are consulting with Miss IC and bringing her into the equation. Now go off and google together!
IC, I know you will come up with the right decision as to where to get treatment, as long as you are consulting with Miss IC and bringing her into the equation. Now go off and google together!
RJ, Baby you already know I love you and that accent If things didn't work out with Miss IC, I was prepared to hunt you down...{ smack !! as IC realizes that Miss IC is standing behind him with a rolled up newspaper while he types}
No, we're in this together now and her and I both are having the same feeling so I'm sure that is the route we will take {Ooooh google together...I thought RJ said grope together, sorry honey..my bad }
PS. RJ, between you and me...I know what you said, I just couldn't resist grabbing that little H.S.A kwim?
Don't take this the wrong way...IC is not a control freak but when it came to sex, it was like he was programmed to go about it in a certain way. Kwim?
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I was clueless as to what IC was doing, I was just basically going along with his lead and let things happen as they will. But wow! Yea, relaxing and truly enjoying myself is putting it lightly. Did you guys read it together or was it something that you read and then took things out of it and suggested to your BF?
I read it on my own... figured out what I wanted to do, and then either just went ahead and did it... or I made suggestions.
THEN BF asked me about what I had done and suggested, and wanted to where I got those ideas...
I have learned from here that the best way to get something done... is to do it yourself. I was really bad about being... hmmm... passive(?), and, I guess, expecting that my man was going to read my wants/mind (so I didn't have to take any of my own risk, kwis?) All that does is build anger/resentment.
Long way of saying... I never expect anyone to read a book with me. I don't leave them lying out in hopes someone will get 'the hint' and figure out what I mean by it all. I read books that interest me, that teach me something I want to learn... I try it out, or I ask for it. I want a vibrant, connected sex life. So I must first be a vibrant, connected woman. I've discovered that it doesn't depend on the man for me to be this. I DO have to stay true to myself, though.
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Corri, I can't explain this, I really can't. I can't explain the feeling...it was like an emotional orgasm as opposed to a physical one...if that makes any sense. I'm really at a loss for words to describe the connection but yes, I felt it and still do
YES. Now, I'm sure part of this is because the emotions are running high in your house right now, obviously. But... the techniques in that book, and on the web site, are meant to build the spiritual/emotional connection between 2 people, regardless of how you decide to proceed from there (more traditional sex, less traditional sex... or not sex at all).
IC: Listen up, fella. Kudos to you for trying stuff. It's a good thing you couldn't go down the more traditional sex road the other night, or you may not have discovered something YOUR WIFE REALLY LIKES. (Hmmm... did I emphasize that enough? I wonder...) Watch out when she starts doing a little reading of her own...
IC: Listen up, fella. Kudos to you for trying stuff. It's a good thing you couldn't go down the more traditional sex road the other night, or you may not have discovered something YOUR WIFE REALLY LIKES. (Hmmm... did I emphasize that enough? I wonder...) Watch out when she starts doing a little reading of her own...
Yup, I think you emphasized enough {sheesh !! as IC's trying to shake off the cob webs from the blows to the head from the newspaper and Corri's ever popular 2 x 4 }
Yeah - I am the wicked, evil surf and turf dinner maker. I really feel for both of you and the difficult decisions and treatments but I am confident that you will be ok. You seem to have a lot of love for each other and that is a great start for surviving marital ups and downs AND surviving cancer. Please disregard the silly banter since this is clearly an all talk, no action medium!
ROTFLMAO.... I'm sorry..I go about these message boards in all the wrong order. I've not had much time to look into everyone's different situations, but after your name came up on here, I saw one of your recent threads.."Remembering myself Part II" and came across this:
Oh yes Cac (Chuck),
For a visual on the sneak attack 69 picture a silent hovercraft with the ability to hover at low altitudes for long periods of time. Perhaps alien in origin. What's that? I didn't hear it but there it is hovering within visual range.......Call for back up! I've been hit!............
OMG, I know it's an old post..but thank you sooooo much for the good laugh, I needed it
And now to the present...
Originally Posted By: karen1
Miss IC,
Yeah - I am the wicked, evil surf and turf dinner maker. I really feel for both of you and the difficult decisions and treatments but I am confident that you will be ok. You seem to have a lot of love for each other and that is a great start for surviving marital ups and downs AND surviving cancer. Please disregard the silly banter since this is clearly an all talk, no action medium!
LOL, don't say wicked and evil ! I might need to borrow that recipe one of these days...it sure had an affect on IC
Thank you Karen, #1 for the good laugh and #2 for the words of encouragement. I'm feeling that our marriage is special again. We sort of lost our way there for a while but we are starting to get things back. I guess I've lived a sheltered life so far as to never being around ANYONE that has had cancer and now it's hit home in a big way. I'm really scared {crying} and all of your kind words do help. Thank you
We've got a friendly argument here at the IC household that needs to be put forth to the SSM jury...
Tonight was one of those windy, cold, curl up on the couch and watch a movie, kind of Michigan night. So we're on the couch watching "Mr. Brooks" {good movie by the way..a little creepy} The movie gets done and IC goes into the kitchen (or so I thought) A few minutes later, I get up to go in the kitchen as well...IC was hiding around a corner and scared the absolute sh!t out of me ! My natural defensive reaction was to raise my knee up into you know where...dropped him like a bad habit !!!
The plaintiff (Me) alleges that the defendant (IC) was negligent and deserved what he got and owes said plaintiff a nice long massage with Karen's skinnydip candle/massage oil as restitution. The defense is claiming that it was pre-meditated physical battery and has issued a counter suit and is seeking the same restitution.
So ladies and gentleman of the jury...have you reached a verdict?
(Don't get me in trouble...my wife might be lurking on here somewhere 
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