When I spoke of not being understanding, it goes back to your very first post. You kicked him out after he was diagnosed with depression. That is what you owe an apology for.
Aslo, you wonder why he had an affair. Well, you have been yanking his chain. He is getting aggravated with you and rightfully so. Your interactions with him seem to start with a confrontational attitude before anything starts. This is not a recipe for a good relationship.
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I want to see both sides of the picture....I just wish I could be in his head.
I understand. Yoyu will get better cooperation if you let your guard down. You will get better cooperation if you figure out what it is you really want. You will get better cooperation if you go with the flow.
As for where you are going, I don't see your H asking for a divorce. I am not really sure what he wants and he seems to be taking cues from you. I can't say for sure. There does seem to be some ability to have friendship with this man. The real question to ask yourself is do you want to be married or do you want to be divorced? Do you have any love for this man?
You don't have to figure it out today, but I would strongly suggest that you make an effort to get along. You may surprise yourself and find that things aren't so bad.
