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I am unlocked now, mister jar.

Yes, fire that lawyer. How horrible. Family law and she can't talk to your personally or return your calls?? You can find someone else out there that will be so much better.

Happy about the pleasant exchange, that can always help start out days out.

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Yeah... I think she's was showing off a little for her friend though.

For one.. she was distracted because HOT blonde mom came in the same time I did. W was keeping an eye on me.. had to chuckle.

Then.. and I know I screwed up here, but one of the gals she works with is very attractive and I had made mention that I wouldn't mind asking her out when this whole mess started.

I'm sure OW has been told because she definitely steers clear of me. Anyway.. she was in the room dropping her D off and W was acting a little "too cool for school" if you know what I mean.

Not that I care, OW has some issues.. single with a D, parties all the time etc. Now she's one of my W's new friends. Catching a pattern?

Anyway.. I did get a hug and a "I'll call you at lunch".

OW looked on in shock.

This is where I believe she will start getting herself in trouble. I'm sure she's lied her butt off to her friends and when they see stuff like that, I'm sure they are curious what the truth is.

I hope anyway.. I hate to think people have a false impression of me.

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jar, I know. I wonder what H tells people about me. He told OW I was cold, distant and put work ahead of him. Lovely. She was actually defending H to her H, saying "He had nowhere to go, she shut him out." Pathetic.

I once told H that he should be talking to his family about us (not the A, just to have someone to talk to) and he said he would feel bad if they got a negative impression about me. I told him to let ME worry about that and if he told the truth (the demise was both our faults), they won't think negatively.

Lovely that W is hanging out with other 'teammates'. My brother got married very young (20!) and his W cheated on him. She started hanging out with single teachers at her school and it happened. He divorced her by the way, put a 10 yr boycott on marriage (LOL), got married at 30 and is beyond happy with 2 kiddos. Still, very painful for him back then. NOT saying this will happen to you, but we aren't alone.

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Wow.. that's exactly what's happened here.

She was ~20 and I was 26/27. Started hanging with this new crowd and boom.

The fire was started, just that this group provided the explosives.

Interesting... W asked me early on if I'd remarry. I told her I probably wouldn't. Of course she took credit (Oh.. did I ruin it for you) selfish.. no.. just not sure I want to do it again.

I told her I know she would remarry.. she loves the idea... the fairy tale. When she figures out she has to help make that fairy tale.. she may get it.

Who knows.



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For the record, my brother is book brilliant but an idiot otherwise. ;\) In fact, he forgot his friends were setting him up on a blind date (with his wife now), and he BROUGHT a date along. Yup, him, his date, and his future wife, on a daytrip to the wineries. Its funny now, but he's a fool. lol

And don't lose hope. Don't lose hope because 1) things are NOT over, and 2) life will bring you happiness regardless.

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Quote:

I told her I know she would remarry.. she loves the idea... the fairy tale. When she figures out she has to help make that fairy tale.. she may get it.


I love that part. Mine is leaving to "find that spark, true romance. That's what life's about."

WTF about these kids?

That's what I thought life was about. Stupid me.

I can't wait until they realize that prince charming farts in bed too.

Mine kicked off in pretty much the same way. She started hanging out with the EA OM, and single party girls at work.

BTW, it's funny how jealous she appears about you around the hot mom at daycare when that's exactly where she picked up her OM. What arrrogant selfishness.


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lwb - That is too funny. I hear ya..

Yeah.. the whole Goose/Gander thing.

She's never been a big fan.



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So W calls. Evidently D3 has been sent home from school.

Here is yet another issue W and I have. No matter what is going on, when W or one of the D's gets sick, she insists that ALL stay home. So in this case.. D5 is coming home as well.

Now.. W has never supported my job (I work from home.. no weekends, barely travel, make GREAT money, take her to exotic vacations) says I work too much.

When one of the D's is sick, I'm always the one who stayed home and took care of them. Or when W was sick, I'd stay home to take care of her. Now.. I still have to work, which involves teleconferences with clients etc. She makes things way more complicated when she insists the whole family be home. She says it's not fair to whoever is being left out.

Personally.. I'm doing all the work, so all she's doing is making it harder for me. I've told her this and she could care less.. I'm the bad person for not wanting to spend time with the kids.

Well.. maybe this time she will understand where I'm coming from. It's my day, but she is going to keep them till 3 when she has another L appt. I will bring them home, but she will more than likely have to call off tomorrow since D3 probably won't be allowed back to school.

Grrrrrrr. Seems like the last few days any possible button/situation that could be started has been.

Dang it!!



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You could always not answer. The she can't guilt you or try to get her way.

Honestly it sounds like your wife has a few screw loose. Honestly she sounds crazy. Has she ever been diagnosed??

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I could've, but I have a bad habit of answering the phone for work.. I usually don't even see who it is.

I sincerely believe that if she were to get some counseling for herself it would help tremendously. I seriously think she could be bi-polar. She is on anti-depressants, but they never seem to work. She swings from one end to the other so quickly it's amazing.

I vow that we will not get back together until she has been to counseling. She doesn't even care about herself.. how can she care about others?



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