Sadly, the boys are right. Your W won't be open to any 'mushy' talk, even if she liked it in the past. You will have to be open minded, be prepared to hear things from her that aren't true (a lot of these begin with "You always..." or "You never...."), and figure out how to respond. Usually its not good to respond or defend yourself except to say something like "Sorry you feel that way". That diffuses it, as she will be defensive.
