We hear a lot about detaching on this sight. But what is "detachment" really???

Is is going dark? Is it going dim? Is it NC?

IMO, it's not any of those things. You can do those things and still not be detached. You can NOT do those things and be detached.

It's a very complicated concept to grasp I think.

I would like some input from those on here that have mastered the technique of emotional detachment to help out the newbies and some of the oldies that seem to have trouble with this concept.

For starters, I'll give this link.

Detachment

Now, the rest of you step in here and tell how you did it, what helps, what it means to you, etc.

Hope this can help someone.

BFM

There is only one person who could ever make you happy, and that person is you.
David Burns, Intimate Connections