Aud, I am new to piecing (i've been on MLC boards for the last year and a half). I think I remember reading your sitch on the infidelity board a while back.
As for your thoughts and insecurities, i feel like you're taking all the words out of my mouth.
I know it's so hard when we start thinking about how horribly they behaved and the "how could they do that" feelings. What I've tried to do is let go of what he did in teh past and focus on how he's behaving now. However, that is sometimes hard because we often use past experiences to try to figure out what 's going on today. I have been doing it myself lately with H, which is creating some serious negative energy.
Try to focus on what your H is doing TODAY and not what he did 6 months ago. He was in a differnt place back then.
The thing that rings true with me is about letting them figure themselves out. We have this tendency to want the help them move along, but at the end of the day, they need to come to their own conclusions.
Keep coming here to vent. Don't vent to your H. Believe me when I say, that only hurts the process. I'm trying to follow my own advice.
Married 9 years Kids 5 and 6 Bomb 2006 H back and forth for a year M now back on track
