Thanks Alamo Girl. I don't think there has been 5 minutes in the last 15 months that I haven't thought about my ex. I think I've said it in a previous post, but she was and still is a really beautiful woman (physically and emotionally). I can still say that after how mean she has been to me. This is a great community of people and the advice has been a huge part of the healing. I will get the books you recommended. I have been so busy with my house project - I'm remodeling a home that was built in 1890. Needs lots of work and I need to stay really busy to keep my mind from wondering.
I met a former co-worker a few weeks ago at a wedding reception and he said to me after hearing about my divorce "no one can help you forget the last one like the next one". That bit of advice is a really hard pill to swallow right now. I feel like a lot of people I have known over the years are looking at me in a different way now (a good way) and it is because of how I have grown through this awful process.
Also, I read a lot about people (including myself) who want to know about statistical data regarding divorce or a walk-away-spouse where there is reconciliation. From what I have learned almost all of the people I have spoken with have had their ex-spouses try to get back together. My friends (who were men and were the dumpees) didn't want to reconcile after they got their lives together. Right now, I hope that doesn't happen to me. Only time will tell.
Thanks again for chiming in. You're always welcome. I haven't posted much on other threads, because I don't feel like I have a lot of advice to give other than "I know how you feel - like crap".
