Time for healing without closing the door

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Ok...will need time for the lump to recover (from 2x4).

Will tackle the easier parts first...more difficult parts will take some reflection.

Hi Casey.

Here is what I see. The problem is you, not your husband. You are leaving him hanging in the wind because you don't know what you want. I would not be as nice as he has been. You are not being fair to him and from the beginning, you have not been understanding of his situation. If I am reading this correctly, he had problems and your reaction was to kick him out. Not very understanding.

So I should be more understanding of him having an affair?

Now, as you said, you have to get your s**t together. That is an understatement. Last time I posted the impression was that you wanted to save the marriage; this time, no hope for reconciliation. You need to decide what you want. And no matter what, you do owe your husband an apology.

I haven't posted everything that's happened on here so the thing I can think of that I need to apologise for, I haven't even posted on here. What do I need to apologise for? To quote Denzel Washington in (Ummm... can't remember what movie it's from), explain it to me like I'm a four year old.

Now, figure out what you want. Doing what you are doing is not fair to anyone. And these is no way I can support what you yourself don't know.

Now. Get yourself together, then we can go from there.

IMP [/quote]

Ag...fair nuff....that's the hard part.

Thanks IMP....I'm feeling fairly chastened but don't let up. I want to see both sides of the picture....I just wish I could be in his head.