Sometimes it hurts to do whats right

[Kman]

I think you will find that talking to your Grandpa will make you feel really good. Trust me on that one.

And don't feel like you're alone - I go through all of that stuff in my head, all the time. Probably too much, which is why I think it's about time for me to go find a C to gripe at.

And, if there's anything that will cheer up a golfer, it's golfing with ME. You'll feel like Tiger by the time we're done after you've seen me hacking away. But, bring it on.

Hope you feel better this week-
Kev

[Lissie]

Oh I have to bust out the scripture.

But God has promised to break the bars of our yoke. He comes to us
and says, "I'll make you a trade. Lay your burdens at my feet. You
give me that heavy yoke, and I will give you peace."

"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give
you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle
and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my
yoke is easy and my burden is light." Matthew 11:28-30

Tell your grandpa I said hi. smooches. My lovey.

[inspiredjulie]

Thinking of ya, Ian.

[sofaraway]

Tough night tonight. I have been thinking a lot about the mistakes that I have made and have begun to make plans to repair the errors that I have made.

I talked to my D14 tonight and tried to fix some of the mistakes that I have made with her. I laid down some new rules for around the house including chores and other expectations. I also told her its okay to have a "boyfriend", but not to go out with him, like to movies, etc.....

I also told her that she will be staying with her mom on Wednesday and Thursday night. I told her that I was wrong to simply agree to her decision to not live with her mother at all and that she needs to at least try before we make that decision. We discussed her obligation to herself to make a true effort to have a relationship with her mother and that I made a mistake when I didnt make her do that right away.

I told her that in the end she only has her actions to look upon and that she must try and do what is right first and foremost. That way when all is said and done she has no regrets for not at least trying.

I called Carrie and told her that she could have Tawny this Wed. and Thurs night and she cried. She told me. "I don't know what happened, but thank you. " I told her our daughter needs to have a relationship with her mother and that she needs to have a better relationship with our daughter. I also told her she better not use this against me with the guardian, that I am doing this out of what is right and she better not use it to serve her own purposes. She promised that she would not do that. Do I believe her? Not necessarily 100%, but I will have to trust her as this is simply the right thing to do.

If I learned nothing else from the events that unfolded yesterday, I did learn that I must be willing to do the things that I preach to others around here and that includes being a good enough father to not be afraid of having my kids get mad at me. I cannot tell others to think about what they are doing and not do it myself, I have to be accountable for my own actions as well.

So step one is complete, D14 has had the talk with dad. Tomorrow night will be the talk with D19, and Wednesday night will be the talk with S10. By thursday night I will most certainly need to drink that twelve pack that I won off of Kman when Michigan beat Illinois......


I am drained, off to bed to watch the rest of the game.

Ian

[Fender]

Hey Ian, a few posts back you mentioned "talking" to your grandfather. I know excatly what you mean, been there done that. It is very theraputic and it does help.

I like what you told your D. One you admitted to her you made a mistake and two you also told her you are going to correct it. One thing GF tells me is that kids need boundries and you just established one for your D.

It is also commendable that you realized that your W and D need to have a realationship, even if D is resisting it right now.

If I learned nothing else from the events that unfolded yesterday, I did learn that I must be willing to do the things that I preach to others around here and that includes being a good enough father to not be afraid of having my kids get mad at me. I cannot tell others to think about what they are doing and not do it myself, I have to be accountable for my own actions as well.

Heck of a lesson, eh? Learned this one a time or two myself.

[Lissie]

I am proud of you.

Have a great day.

[*KS*Chick*]

way to go Ian. Do what's right - always be proud of your actions....or that's my latest motto. I want to be proud of how I've handled things.

[care]

Sometimes it takes the bigger man to admit he didn't handle things the right way (even though he thought he was doing what was best for his family at the time) and an even bigger man to try and rectify the situation.
Your actions with W and D show your strength of character with which your entire family will reap the benefits. Yeah Ian.
Good luck talking to D19 and S10.

[fig]

Nicely done ian. I think your daughter will buck at the rules at first but they appreciate the boundaries.

I have a packet of parenting plans here if you would like me to send them on to you (from the university extension program...they offer them at my school)

just let me know

[osu43130]

Sup Ian,
Just stopping by with a drive by Posting to say Hi.

Peace,
ben