Hardly faking it anymore: Puddle's third thread

[S.T. _I Made It!]

regarding H's sadness. I think that was a good thing. He's probably gonna have more of it. I think it's more of a wakeup call. And don't feel bad not talking then, because you were tired, and you may have reacted less than pleasant, so I think it was fine. The rest of the email sounded really good. And SEE, he still isn't believing the changes, and that's a big part of DBing, it takes our repetitive actions (that become true changes, changes that are for ourselves not for our spouse) that ultimately prove to them we have changed.

hey, and I know your feelings on your H are pretty much non-existant right now, but you know that can change as well. feelings are temporary, love is a choice. and it's definitely possible for you to have feelings for him again, if the chance arises.

I think part of it, is the new guy. It is helping you get over H, IMHO, and I could really see some strong feelings come from you for him. But do remember, those feelings will fade too.

I had heard from my pastor that the statistics for 1st marriages are on average 5 years. It seems obvious that this is the time where the honeymoon has already faded, and the hardwork is put in , or should be put in.

I am really glad and proud of you to continue to work on your M, even though you don't really want to right now, but that is such a blessing to see. Your children are very blessed to have you as their mom.