Yeah, I think a lot of my health problems are a result of the stress for so many years. You know, no let up and day after day, year after year. Of course, there were many other things that added to the pressure and problems. I think that some of that probably had its effects on the M too. At least, we didn't have the problems in the M that we do now.....we were closer to each other. My H is not one that will "talk" about things with me and I needed to talk about our D and the stuff she was going through and putting us through as well. However, he was always the kind to stick his head in the sand and not deal with it. Well, it doesn't go away by doing that. But, that was part of the emotional needs that I had that was not filled. I guess that is why I have a problem with people telling me to go in there to him and for me to do this and that to make the M better. I know I shouldn't feel that way and I don't all the time.....just when I'm moody...lol. But, like the guys have told me today, if it was my H on here instead of me...they would tell him. He is still bad to just stare at the TV when I try to talk to him and I resent it a lot. It is hard to feel close to a person when they treat you like that. I tried to tell him that it was disrespectful and he got better, but he still relaps sometimes.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
