our un-relationship

[Dom R]

Shorter, is usually better. you might want to cut out the whole first 2 paragraphs, and start with the "being lied to" bit.

Additionally... I think it kinda sucks that you say that you are "not looking to date you, or change him".

For starters... that's kind of an insult, given how intimately you two are enmeshed.
Beyond that though: I think that both of those clauses.. arent true.


You certainly are looking to change him, in the sense of, "you would like him to change his behaviour".

And you ARE "looking to date him". because otherwise, I dont think you would care.

Lying to him, should be just as unacceptible as him lying to you, yes?
And lying to yourself, doesnt make it excusable to lie to him, in my opinion.