Thank you sweetie for your concern, it showed a lot in that post and I appreciated it very much. My daughter is 41 and has had very brittle diabetes since she was 15. That means that it cannot be control and she has many,many health problems as a result of it. She has been married and divorce three times and they were all b/c the husbands could not deal with the health issues. I almost lost my mind over it until I finally had to come to a point that I realized I could only do so much and the rest was up to her and God. By "her", I mean the smoking. The doctors have tried to tell her all these years what it was doing to her, but she will not even try to stop. I cried and begged and pleaded.....nothing would make her stop. Her son has gotten so mad at her, but that did nothing. I think she is scared, but I doubt it will be enough to make her stop.
She is on disability and medicaid. So, that limits us to what we can do. So many doctors won't even see medicaid patients. The doctor she is seeing is the best for these parts. He comes from the capitol city down here once a month.....which does sound bad, but we can get her to the ER fast if we had to. It is a long story so I won't go into all of it. I guess it must sound terrible to another person and may sound like I'm not trying to do enough as a parent, but when they are 41 years old, they do what they want to do and there isn't much we can force upon them. I worry about her, but, God forgive me, I think I have given up to a certain degree simply b/c I knew if I didn't try to stop thinking about it I would lose my mind. I guess b/c of the hell we went through when she was younger.....maybe something in me just kicked in as a self preservation thing....I don't know. Year after year we were told she would not live to see too many more years. We were told she would go blind......other stuff as well. So, I think I've tried to brace myself for the worse for so long until it has kind of done something to me. Anyway, I'm sure that has something to do with my depression. Two kids and both on disability!
Anyway, like I said, thanks for your concern. I always talk and try to give her my advice as to what I think she should do....for all the good it does.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
