I am grateful to be in a relationship with another self-admitted, self-aware pursuer. We both have the attitude "I'm not going to be the one who is the lame*ss avoider in this relationship." Our level of intimacy isn't fueled by "in love" chemicals but rather by a sort of mutual respect that we garner for each other when we display confidence that we are valuable partners in a relationship. For instance, GP told me today that when I indicated to him that I was willing to date him exclusively by taking down my profile, he pushed himself past the tendency to simply pat himself on the back and asked himself "What can I do to make this better?" Basically, we have committed to a hardcore version of the "Don't go to bed angry." philosophy and the core of that philosophy is to just truly believe that you are a ch*ckensh*tted loser if you don't pick up that phone or wake up that person snoring next to you and resolve that problem, however trivial, the moment it arises.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
